On November 15, 2012, Shadow Man sat down once again to share.
Shadow Man jots down his thoughts at one of the DETC workshops.
The following is a small window in to his journey towards a better life:
One year ago, nearly to the date, Rose began her 3-month stay in a physical rehabilitation facility. Her absence from home, especially during the holidays, quickly sent Shadow Man spiraling into a deep depression.
However, edging in on Rose’s 2nd month away, just in time for Christmas, Shadow Man suddenly realized that maybe- just maybe- instead of gaining a sense of self from others’ needs, he needed to focus on his own needs and take care of himself.
Cleaning the house was overwhelming and he needed help completing tasks; he recognized that. However, there were things he could do on his own, be it cleaning or making himself smile. He seized those warm fuzzy thoughts and feelings, enabling himself to figure out the steps he needed to take to better care for his emotional, spiritual, and physical selves. Wait, who am I kidding, that was the first time he could remember even taking time to identify his needs in those areas.
He spoke with his doctor about improving his physical health, and made an appointment to speak with a nutritionist. Walking and exercising became a regular part of his daily schedule. Not to ignore his emotional and spiritual needs, he began meeting with a pastoral coordinator once a week.
There weren’t unicorns in the end, but Shadow Man did see his world brighter. As his thoughts decided to play nice and get in line, he found himself surrounded by silver linings.